There are optimal times to do somethings: visit the Midwest (not in winter), eat dinner (before 7:00 PM), and pet dogs (always).
However, for most (important) things, there is no “right time.”
- Going back to school
- Starting or ending a relationship
- Opening a business
- Reaching out to a new friend
- Adopting a dog
- Having kids
Sure, there are easier times to do each of these, but since when does easy equate to right?
Here’s how I see it: When it feels right, do it. If it doesn’t, don’t.
We’ve all been there. Deep in the pit of your stomach you feel pulled to do something. Every ounce of your being screams “yes!” Your mind constantly traces back to the same thought over and over again. You want this, but it’s not the right time.
Maybe you’re super busy or can’t get off work. Or maybe your family really needs you right now and it’s not an ideal time to be selfish. Maybe it’s a lack of money or knowledge that’s holding you back. Typically, we avoid things because of: money, energy, time, or fear.
And guess what? None of those are going away.
Which means if something’s going to change, it’s got to be you.
You need to figure out what cues your body and soul give you when you’re moving in the right direction and choose to trust them. You need to dig deep and figure out who you want to be and what it’ll take to get there—then refuse to entertain any choices that could get in your way. You need to learn the difference between a better time and an easier time and decide that easy isn’t your style—you’re here to be bold, take on challenges, and come out better.
You need to say “YES” when your heart feels inclined and “NO” when things feel a bit off. You need to try new things and meet new people and ask hard questions. You must set strong boundaries and high expectations.
Now. You need to do it now.
Why? Because right now is the only right time you’ve got. And if we’re blunt, it could be the only time you’ve got period. None of us have any clue how long we have left, so wasting precious seconds now in hopes they’d be more valuable in the future is silly.
I get it. Big steps are scary. They’re hard. Risk requires courage and faith and confidence. But the alternative—never actually reaching what you want—is much worse.
So stop waiting for the right time and start making it your time. This is the sign you’ve been waiting for.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain