“There are lessons in everything. The bad, the good. Our job is to listen, and to continue to learn, so that maybe we get better at this. Maybe get better at life.” – Laverne Cox
It’s up to us to take experiences, learn from them, and change: You’ve heard it before countless times so I won’t go into a spiel. But how do we do this? Here are 5 steps to get you started.
1) Walk through a recent experience (good or bad) from start to finish. Write it down. Get clear on what you said, did, felt, and how you reacted. Remember how the other key players in this experiences interacted with you as well.
2) Pinpoint areas you’re happy with. Maybe you handled a stressful situation with ease and grace. Maybe you responded to harsh words and criticism with kindness. Pat yourself on the back and decide to act this way in future situations as well.
3) Pinpoint areas you’re not so happy about. Maybe you didn’t speak the whole truth, instead opting for something easier. Maybe you overreacted and ended up hurting someone you love. Recognize and accept that these actions were yours and yours alone – apologize if needed.
4) Think through how the scenario could’ve gone differently – get detailed.
5) Don’t fret too long – there’s no changing the past. Pick 1 – 2 key lessons you can take from this situation and implement them in the future.
Life is one big class where we’re constantly learning about ourselves, our strengths, our shortcomings, and our world. However, just like any other class, if you choose to merely sit idly and breeze through the motions instead of spending time studying the content – you’re not going to learn much.
Happy Friday everyone! Have a killer weekend!